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Setting Strong Boundaries

Posted By Sharon On October 6, 2009 @ 10:51 am In Boundary Setting,Productivity,Uncategorized,well-being,Work-Life Balance for Professionals | No Comments

Hands down, one of the most powerful things time-starved, crazy-busy people can do for themselves is to strengthen their boundary-setting skills.  Big bang for the buck, in my experience. 

 

Here are a few boundary-strengthening ideas that have made a difference for my clients and for me.  

 

1. Don’t be an Automatic Helper.  Before jumping in or committing to help, ask yourself these questions:

  • Do I have the necessary resources available (time, money, focus, attention) to help in this situation?
  • What other commitments of mine will take a hit (be postponed or taken off the list entirely) if I take on this new one? 
  • What will I have to say “no” to in order to say “yes” to helping out here?

Based on your answers to these questions, make a conscious decision.

 

2. Practice saying this line out loud: “Let me think about this and get back to you.” 

 

3. Feeling guilty doesn’t necessarily mean you’re doing anything wrong.  Sometimes it means you’re doing something different and that feels uncomfortable.

 

If you’d like to hear more ideas about how and when to set appropriate boundaries, consider coming to a 1-hour teleconference I’m leading on Thursday, October 22, at 1:00 Eastern [1].  Can’t make it to this one, but want to be notified the next time it’s offered?  Email me with ”boundaries teleconference” [2] in the subject line, and I’ll send you an email announcing the next time this teleconference runs.   

 


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[1] 1-hour teleconference I’m leading on Thursday, October 22, at 1:00 Eastern: https://ssl.webvalence.com/ecommerce/kiosk.lasso?merchant=STCoach&kiosk=teleclasses&class=Oct22TC

[2] Email me with ”boundaries teleconference”: mailto:sharon@stcoach.com

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